Dear Designated Best Friend,
Let me first start by letting you know how much I appreciate you. What you do as a DBF is hard and it puts your emotions through some strenuous turmoil, but through it all it is you that keeps it all together. You become a Wonder Woman the way you balance it all.
There is nothing wrong with you.
You are beautiful and strong.
It is okay for you not to be strong or okay.
You can cry.
The gaping hole of pain you may be feeling in your heart, do not think for a second that you deserve it. The pain you may be feeling is unlike any other type of pain, it’s unexplainable. It’s a heartbreak that shouldn’t have been broken. It’s abrupt. So please, do not hold it in if if feels like it is too much. Please, do not apologize if for a moment you need to let it all out. Let it release so you will feel relieved enough to find the slightest bit of peace.
Everyone highlights the highs of earning of earning such an esteemed place in one’s life, but things get tough. The reactions of the world’s cold ways get poured into you, yet you find the right words of wisdom to say. Late night, early morning phone calls became routine to keep the other’s mind sane. You eventually learn how to sew the perfect patch onto the torn and ripped areas life has caused. Things become confusing when your feelings begin to want to cross boundaries that you did mentally approve of. Your genuine and innocent love somehow took a drastic spin and became a deepening development of falling in love.
But somehow whether you kept it tearing up inside of you or brave enough to open your heart aloud to be free, you are informed that the feelings are not currently mutual. There is an apparent quality that has granted dismissal from his “Miss Potential” list. How is that you made the bed, but they key is potentially given to someone else. Your familiarity somehow got lost with the rest, while she holds a magic of bright-eyed enthusiasm that he used to see in you.
So even though this circumstance has come into play, my fellow DBF, please don’t change your ways.
You did not get comfortable.
You wearing no make-up or forgetting to shave was okay.
You are intelligent and witty.
Your advice is as needed as ever.
Please don’t let your heart turn cold in the midst of your tears. Continue loving YOU and speaking truth. If it is meant to be, let it happen in its destined time; when your time comes, you will know because it will be packaged in a way that was specifically meant to be true for you. Don’t let fear drive your tenderness away.
If you need time way, take it.
If you need to cry and scream, let it out.
Take all the time you need.
It is okay to ask questions,
It is okay to not understand.
Your heart WILL survive this pain and it will not settle in.
This will not become you.
It is okay to break for a moment.
It is okay for your emotions to flow out like a flood for a moment.
It is okay to not want to love for a moment.
it is okay to be angry for a moment.
but when your moment is through, i need you to pick yourself up, dust yourself off, reflect, and walk with you head high until you need that moment again.
Most importantly, your worth has not depleted.
You are enough. You are beyond more than enough.
I love you + I understand.